Thought of the day #6 – What are you going to do about it?
The world is never going to give you what you want. You’re never going to wake up and one day everything is going to be perfect.
The quality of your life isn’t determined by how perfect the world is, it’s determined by how you respond when it isn’t the way you want it to be.
So when something isn’t the way you want it to be, what are you going to do about it?
There are going to be thousands of different excuses that come up.
“But last time I tried, it didn’t work…”
Perfect. That’s one thing you know doesn’t work for you. What are you going to do differently?
“But maybe I just can’t change…”
Maybe, but maybe not. If you believe this then prove it to yourself. Try every possible solution. Only then will you know whether or not you can change. So what are you going to try now?
“But I’m not good enough.”
And you never will be by sitting around waiting till you’re good enough to do something. So what are you going to do?
“But it seems scary.”
How is running away from scary things working for you? Are you happy being comfortable? Obviously not if you’re complaining about it, so what are you going to do about it?
Pick one area in your relationships with women that you’re not happy with.
Don’t go general, like I’m not sleeping with enough of them, be specific. Pick something that you’re not doing enough of:
- I’m not expressing myself enough
- I’m not initialing enough conversations with women
- I don’t stand up for myself
Once you have your specific one, then ask yourself: what am I going to do about this?
Create some kind of plan that you can execute to deal with this issue because it’s not going to deal with itself.
Just as a side note, I wrote this because I was sitting at work the other day and it struck me what I dislike so much about every customer we have:
All they do is whinge about their life.
I spend my entire day listening to “This person did this…” and “This is unfair…” and “It’s this person’s fault…” but not once, have I ever heard:
“And this is what I’m going to do about it.”
Whinging, complaining, moaning and bitching and not one single person in the entire room who has the balls to stand up and take action.
Do I agree with them about the things that are wrong with the world?
No, not at all. But if they stood up and took action, at least I’d respect them.
At the moment, I can’t even respect them.
I thought about this in relation to my life and then realised that the people I respect the most are the ones who stand up for what they believe in, regardless of what that is, and take action to make their world the way they want it to be.
It helped me see that if I want to be the kind of person that I respect, this is how I have to live my life.
I’m much better at doing this than I used to be but it’s still not happening in all areas of my life so this is why this is my thought of the day.